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“When things get rough, I like to walk with you”-Jason Mraz. This line is from my favorite song entitled “Everything is sound”. I think this specific line can summarize the essence of having someone willing to be with you as you continue your journey. But how can you really tell that the people you chose to be with are going to stay with you all throughout? When can we say that our friends are true? And specially, are we really sure that every feeling of being loved is real?
In my life today, I am contented and somehow secure with all the relationships I built from the past years. I have good friends with me, my ever supportive family, and a very special guy, these people helped me feel so much loved. But in the middle of all the happiness, I often stop and think if all the persons I know are treating me in a true manner. Specially, when we started discussing about the level of interaction. In every specific level, I started sorting out all the people I know. And somehow, I’m kind of disappointed. Only few of them reach the highest level. And unfortunately most of them are the people called- “lulubog-lilitaw” people. And how did I thought of this? Well, you can’t blame me of calling them like that, they are the people who would be texting and calling me just when they need me. A sad truth, indeed, but it is reality. There are people with this kind of attitude. I met a lot of them already, I was once like them. But I think conscious struck me faster. That is why, I somehow started to find it hard trusting people around me. But I think it is in man’s nature that we trust people easily especially when we think we have something in common.
Somehow it is the “sameness’ that makes a relationship start. A relationship, not specifically the romantic one, starts from a small conversation with all the things you know and you have in common. Just like in Facebook, we may add friends of our friends which is actually called “Mutual friends”. And we start mingling with them. We often share specific details about ourselves with them, our birthday, name, address and so on. Are these information, alone, enough to define us, for us to be accepted fully? I think those are just the stepping stones to knowing each other more. You see, it takes one step at a time.
But I am confident in saying that the only thing that will make this relationship grow fonder, is when both parties accept the differences one possesses. It is when one become one-of-you according to Virgilio Enriquez. It is when one started to care for them and when one become not just a faceless “other” but a companion. Maybe there are people who would think that they could live their lives without being with others. But they are definitely wrong. According to what I understood, it is the others who help us define or know who we really are. We know that we are unique because of these “others” but they sometimes become just like us, but not exactly us. Those are not the only reasons why we need others or the so-called “Kapwa”, there are plenty of reasons depending on how we perceive other people. One thing is sure, a man cannot be called as a man unless he/she lives with others.
After all the realizations, who will really be there for me, someone who is whole-heartedly willing to walk with me when things are rough? I am not really asking for someone who would be singing that lyrics for me, but someone who would walk-the-talk. And I almost forgot, I want to be with people who would accept me as me, not because of other things.
I will not prolong this anymore; to summarize everything in life we meet a lot of people. There will be some people that will just come and go leaving nothing. But most of them will come and soon go, but will surely leave good memories to us. In this kind of people, we don’t just mingle with them, because of them we are valued, loved and cared, and most especially we do not just exist with them, we learn from them and learn with them.
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“Everything is Sound”
by: Regine Peñaredondo
THE RELATION OF I AND OTHERS
by: Redrose Marie Aliliran
In our relation to the others, it is but necessary to observe how intimate our connection with one another. Here comes the concept of the Levels of Interaction which is conceptualized by a Filipino Psychologist, Dr. Virgilio Enriquez. According to him there are two main categories on identifying our level of interaction; the first five levels belong to the category “in relation to outsiders” and the remaining three are in the “relation with in group.”
“In relation to the outsiders” simply mean that you interact with the persons you barely know or you consider those persons as outside yourself, you do not have any deep relation with them and you are just starting the connection. The first is the level of amenity or civility. In this level we interact with other people casually, with courtesy and with an agreeable manner, just the normal connection with strangers. The second level is the level of mixing. In here, we try to interact more with the people we do not know. The third level is the level of joining or participating. On this level we try to become a member of a particular circle or group. The fourth is the level of conforming. In here, we try to act in accordance with the other; we try to correspond with them. The fifth is the level of adjusting. In this level we try to adapt with the attitude of others.
The next category is the “relation with in group” which means you already consider the others as part of your life. You have established great bond between you and them and we would notice that our relationship went deeper. We continue with the sixth which is the level of mutual trust or rapport. In this level, you have already constructed a common trust and you already have an understanding with each other. The seventh level is the level of getting involved. In here, the others are already a part of you; you already include yourself to the other. And the eighth and last level is the level of fusion, oneness and full trust. In here you have already achieved the deepest level of connection, you became one with the other and you have given each other full trust. This last level is obviously really hard to achieve and needs really great effort, but it is certainly worth it. If we have achieved this level of interaction, we would be really happy and fulfilled for we can rarely accomplish it and it takes a very important person to share this kind of intimacy.
The relation of I and thou is just the beginning of a profound study of Philosophy concerning the human person, it is one of the basic notions yet one of the hardest too. We would not stop on tackling about this topic for humans are the proof of existence and there were too many mysteries that need to be unfold in our entire cosmos. It is just right to start the discourse on how we, humans, interact with each other and how each and every one of us become significant in every individual’s lives. And this, knowing what the self and others are and the levels of interaction, starts our long yet worthy journey towards the truth, towards Philosophy.
Humans are social animals or beings; it is our nature to communicate and interact with other human beings around us, whenever we need or want to. Communication is a thing that happens normally that we do not usually think of it as a thing which is very essential to us, it just happens and no more explanations are required. We normally take for granted our true purpose of interacting with others and up to what extent or how deep our relations are with them. We do not usually reflect on the question: Who am I? Who are the others? The thing is these are usually the hardest questions that a person would have been ever asked to answer.
The Self is an individual person who is unique, for he or she has various qualities that could distinguish him or her from others. He is the object of his own deep consciousness. He is responsible for his own thoughts and actions; he is the one who knows his true self, his own identity. The Others are the subject of observation or experimentation of the self. They are different from the self but they are its companion. The self and the others need each other to know their true essence in life. The others are the ones who would help the self to know its flaws and imperfection and vice versa.
This is necessary for the self to be able to change or to improve something which is not good on his attitude or character and on the others as well. The others should be seen by the self as persons who need his help, and the self should react on it and give a helping hand. This way the self would not just aid the other, but he would eventually come to realize that on the process he would experience fulfillment and happiness. This cycle is very important in our daily lives that we should always look into it as an opportunity for us to improve and to be happy with the help and with helping the others.
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AN TAWONG DIALEKTIKO
by: Domingo Chavez Jr.
Tawong mawot asin igwang kusog na boot na makaaram asin maaraman an yaon sa saiyang kahiwasan nin pagkaaram.
Nagtutubod s'yang igwang limitasyon an pagkaaram nin huli kaini ginagalang niya an kadakulaan kan pagtataya siring sa pagkaaram. Alagad an pag-ako nya sa limitasyon bakong pagpundo kundi iyo an pagpahiwas kan saiyang pagkaaram.
Nirururip nya an kababawan kan kararoman asin an kararumi kan kababawan.
Inaaram nya an kadonongan kan mga madodonong siring man an kadonongan kan mga mangmang.
Totoo, sya sarong actualidad alagad an saiyang actualidad pano-pano nin posibilidad. An pagkayaon kan saiyang actualidad, pagkayaon man kan saiyang posibilidad.
Sinasabi na sya mayong pagtubod nin huli ta iba an saiyang pagkasabot kaysa sainda, kaya sya hinusgahan ninda.
Alagad an sinasabi nindang mayong pagtubod iyo man an kararumi kan saiyang pagtubod, huli ta yaon sa posibilidad kan natura n'ya na magdolot sa sarong mas halangkaw pa saiya --- sa Yaon. Ining Yaon bakong limitado; siring man, huli ta sa saiyang limitadong tataramon, nalilimitaran man an boot ipasabot n'ya manunungod sa Yaon.
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Sasaiyang pagdidiskurso nasasambitan n'ya an Yaon, gadan. Ini huli ta namimidbib kan iba an Yaon sosog sasaindang kagustohan. Alagad sa saiya ini Yaon huli ta namimidbid n'ya ini sosog sa pagpapamidbid sasaiya. Kaya, an Yaon nagpapaka-Yaon, nahihiling sa Saiyang pagpapahiling, asin namimidbidan sa Saiyang pagpapamidbid. Totoo harayo alagad an pagkaharayo ninda iyo an pagkakugos ninda sa lambang saro.
An gabos na ini na nasambitan nin huli sa saiyang kinamumugtakan. Dangan, an saiyang kamugtakan, kamugtakan sa bukas na sociedad.